Staying mindful
I know how easy it is to become distracted and I’m sure you do, too. Just consider the last time your cell phone beeped or you heard a strange or loud noise that got your attention.
These and many other distractions are not only hurtful to us, but even more so to those around us. I know that sometimes it is not easy to stay focused, but if we practice on small matters, we will be that much better on more challenging ones.
Being focused on a person is a nice way to demonstrate compassion and it is a step towards being committed to them.
It helps to start by keeping ourselves in a neutral place, not too high or too low, at any given time. It is also helpful to breathe normally when challenging distractions come about.
I am reminded of one of my favorite species of animals, pigs. They are very focused when they need to be and remain calm, at least to the best of their ability, when adversity hits.
A friend of mine in Las Vegas, Piggles, shows this trait well.